What Do Cheating Women Expect From A Discreet Affair?

What Do Cheating Women Expect From A Discreet AffairIt’s clear that both men and women cheat within relationships. If you look at statistics, men and women commit infidelity at nearly the same rate, with men just slightly higher than women at 57% compared to 54%.

Yet while these numbers are quite similar, the reasons for which men and women cheat are quite different. IF you look at the reasons for why men and women cheat respectively, it can be said that: “Men tend to cheat largely for sexual reasons, while women cheat for emotional reasons. There are several infidelity studies that bear that out… One study, in particular, found that 75% to 80% of the men who admitted to having extramarital affairs said that sex was the primary reason. Yet, only 20% of the women who were having extramarital affairs said they cheated on their spouses for purely sexualreasons.”

These are important facts to keep in mind, especially if you’re a man who is going to engage in an extramarital affair with a woman; knowing these facts will help align your expectations. To expand upon these ideas, here are several things you should expect:

Emotional Fulfillment

As you can see clearly from above, the primary reason women cheat is because they’re not getting the emotional satisfaction they want out of their relationship. Providing her with emotional fulfillment doesn’t necessarily mean being ‘lovey-dovey’, rather she wants a man to get close to her and make her feel wanted. If you’re just using this woman to get sex it likely won’t last very long. It may be difficult for a man to get emotionally attached to a woman who is already married, but that’s a man’s best bet for getting the most with a cheating wife. Treat her with love, respect and just be there when she needs a man.

A lot of women adopt the ‘Abandon Ship’ mentality; that is if they believe that their marriage is going downhill they might as well get off board and save themselves. And when they jump ship they’re going to want a life-raft to cling to, which will be you. Whether it’s her husband working late hours or causing petty fights, she never knows what to expect with him. With you, however, she doesn’t have time to deal with two men who are going to act like this. Be the rock that she needs to hold her down. In a world of confusion and lies, she just wants someone she can count on.

Great Sex

Although a poor sex life isn’t usually the catalyst to a woman cheating, there’s a good chance that her sex life is poor, or non-existent. This gives you the opportunity to show you what you’ve got. There’s no need to show off, but she wants a man that will blow her mind. Her husband has [probably gotten lazy and selfish over the years and she wants to feel hot and young again. The best way to do that is to have a guy pleasure her from head to toe. Also, this is a good opportunity for her to explore sexual fantasies and acts that either she or her husband weren’t comfortable enough to try. Make no judgements and simply enjoy what she wants to explore with you.


Many women lose respect for their husbands over time. One of the biggest reasons is because he is not being the man she wants him to be. Being the man she wants to be with won’t allow you to use her as a therapist. She doesn’t want to be exposed to your weaknesses; she wants to see your strengths. Be the man she never had the opportunity to love and be with.

No Judgement

Because she’s already taking a great emotional risk in getting involved in an ex extramarital affair, the last thing she wants is to have to worry about is having another man make her feel unwanted or not loved. When engaging in an affair with a married women the last thing you should do is to judge her personal decisions. While you may not agree with her actions, it may very well cost you the relationship. If she does or says something you don’t like, then either end the relationship or put up with it. There’s no more room for drama in this love triangle.


Whatever the situation, she never wants things to end when not in her terms. For example, she won’t want her husband to end the marriage if he catches her cheating because you slipped up. This is easy to avoid; simply don’t go around telling friends and others about you and her. Also, try and limit communication with her especially when she may be around her husband.


Getting involved with a married woman means that you’re taking a big risk, especially in an emotional sense. If you’re not ready for the consequences this isn’t a game you should be playing. If it is, however, then use this list to know what women expect from an extramarital affair.

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