Oh, yeah. You have done it now, buddy. You’re in a real pickle. Your mistress is pregnant. It may seem like the end of the world but it isn’t. Just like everything else in life, you put one foot in front of the other and move on. There is some damage control to consider as well as a few pivotal decisions but dealing with this problem head-on will deplete the drama factor to manageable. Start by making sure she is actually pregnant and that it is your baby. Once that is established its time to make some critical decisions and move on from there.
 
First of all, don’t panic. No matter how much you trust her, just because she says she is pregnant doesn’t make it true. In fact, mistresses are notorious for playing the pregnancy card when they are not even pregnant. It happens, especially when she is getting tired of being the mistress and has her eyes on that wifey position. Taking that fact into consideration, the first thing to do is make sure she is indeed pregnant and that you are the father. The best way to accomplish this is to administer the pregnancy test yourself. It doesn’t have to be an ugly confrontation. In fact, you can be as pleasant as you want during this test. Some women, especially in the mistress position, can be unscrupulous. It isn’t unheard of for a woman to pull the old bait and switch. Craigslist is rife with positive pregnancy test sales. Take note of the kind of test you send her into the bathroom with and makes sure it is the same kind she is coming out with. If you have yourself a particularly skillful mistress, you may even want to go into the bathroom with her.
 

A Positive Test Means You Still Have Options

Positive results? There may still be hope on the horizon. The next step is the doctor’s office. Make the appointment yourself and take her to the office. Stay with her as she sees the doctor and listen to the results straight from the medical staff. Take note of how pregnant she is and mentally count back the days or weeks and match it to your sexual activity with her? Do things match up? Even if they do, it’s time for DNA checking. It may cost you a pretty penny but, it’s well worth the trouble. Paternity testing can be done as early as 10 weeks into the pregnancy with a procedure called a CVS or chorionic villus sampling. It involves a needle inserted through the cervix through the vagina or the abdomen. A sample of the chorionic villi from the uterus is extracted. The villi have the same genetic code as the baby and will be used to compare the DNA against yours. Between the 14th and 20th week of pregnancy, Amniocentesis are also used in paternity testing. This technique also involves a needle inserted into the uterus and then into the amniotic sac for a fluid draw. The procedure is also used to test the lung maturation in pregnancies where the baby is at risk of being born premature.

Here’s where things get real. If you do, for certain, have a baby on the way with your mistress, it is time to make the hard decisions. A frank and honest conversation with your mistresses is required. She may not be interested or want your help with the baby. The prospect of interacting with a mad wife may not appeal to her and it is entirely possible that she doesn’t not need, want or will allow you to be part of this child’s life. Should she want, need and insist on your help, it’s time for the next step.

Time to fess up. If your wife does not know you are having an affair, the time has come to let her know. It won’t be easy and it will take considerable planning and forethought, but it must happen. If you want to stay with your wife, you must tell her what is happening. Keeping it a secret will only make it worse when she does find out. And she will find out. It is inevitable. You cannot hide a child from your wife. It never works out well. Do not expect it to go over well nor for it to be over quickly. This will be a conversation that lasts days if not months before she comes to terms with what you have done.