Having an affair can be a fun, sexy and exciting time for anyone, but keeping one secret is not always easy, especially in a town where everyone knows your name and your business. If you’ve ever wanted to start an affair and keep it red hot, then you need to go to a city that is big enough (100 biggest cities in the US) to get lost in and easy enough to explain your presence to a questioning spouse. To help you out, we’ve gathered the top cities for having a discreet affair. Check them out below.

New York City

The Big Apple, the city that never sleeps. Whatever you want to call it, New York City tops are list for one major reason: its size. In a city with so many people and seemingly endless miles of city blocks, it’s easy for two people to disappear into the crowds and enjoy their time together. The five boroughs of the city offer limitless options for hotels. You don’t have to shell out hundreds of dollars every night to stay at the Waldorf-Astoria in downtown Manhattan because you can find a number of cheaper options that are still comfortable, discreet and clean. Additionally, there are plenty of chain hotels with amenities such as room service, pools and spas. There are also endless things to do in New York no matter where you are. You and your lover can grab a bite at one of the many restaurants around your hotel or even go for a stroll through one of the many parks around the area.

Miami

Want to escape with your lover to a city that’s warm year round and has an endless supply for discreet and fun hotels to explore? Look no further than Miami. Miami is located on almost the most southern tip of Florida so it remains one of the warmest cities in the country during winter. You won’t have to worry about an ice or snow storm keeping you from meeting up with your lover. While you could go to smaller cities at the tip of the Florida peninsula, Miami is better for affairs because it’s so much bigger than Naples and Key West. If you know anyone in the Key West area, chances are you’ll run into them if you take your lover there. It’s best to stick with a larger city that has multiple areas where you can rent a quiet hotel. Don’t forget to check out the hourly hotels. When you don’t have a lot of time to spend with your lover, why bother paying for a whole night at a hotel? It’s easier to pay for just a few hours, and despite their reputations, not all hourly hotels are sleazy and dirty. Of course, make sure you do your research and fine a hotel that is clean. Your lover may not want to see you any more if you take her to a gross hotel.

Los Angeles

Our next city combines the benefits of New York and Miami. Like New York, Los Angeles is massive. Though there aren’t nearly as many tall buildings as in New York, Los Angeles is extensive. It’s easy to find areas of the city where you do not know anyone. Los Angeles is also warm year round, though not quite as warm as Miami in the winter. Still, there are plenty of great beaches and hotels with beautiful outdoor pools for some sexy fun in the sun. Your lover can still wear her sexiest clothing when you two go out together, and despite the traffic, it’s relatively easy to get across town.

Because Los Angeles is so spread out, it’s also easy to create alibis for yourself about where you are and why you’re on opposite sides of town. New hotels are popping up all the time, which is great for going places where you surely won’t be recognized. There are also plenty of discreet hotels that are off the beaten path, so you can be sure you won’t run into people you know. If you are planning an affair in Los Angeles, remember that there are a lot of celebrities around, and with them come the paparazzi. While they may have no interest in you, you and your lover could be caught in the background of a celebrity’s photo. Avoid places like Santa Monica where celebrities are known to hang out.

Though all of these cities are great for discreet affairs, make sure you have a good explanation for being where you are in case your spouse sees the credit card charges. Try going to an area where you have at least one friend in the general vicinity. You can say you visited this friend and grabbed a hotel and a bite to eat near his or her house. It also may help to get a secret credit card to hide charges from your spouse. She may get suspicious if you withdraw large sums of cash from your bank account.

So tell us, which of these cities will you be visiting first?